Polyamory in a pandemic: who do you quarantine with when you’re not monogamous?

Coronavirus is forcing people in poly relationships to make tough choices about who to be intimate with

Earlier this month, after being exposed to the coronavirus, Chaele Davis had to decide if she would spend her quarantine with her primary partner, whom she has been dating for a year, or her secondary partner, with whom she just celebrated a four year anniversary.

Davis, a polyamorous woman living in Brooklyn, had arranged her life not having to make choices like these. “But when you love two people, in a time like this, you just have to make the call,” she said.

Related: Can I have sex? A guide to intimacy during the coronavirus outbreak

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Polyamory in a pandemic: who do you quarantine with when you’re not monogamous?

Coronavirus is forcing people in poly relationships to make tough choices about who to be intimate with

Earlier this month, after being exposed to the coronavirus, Chaele Davis had to decide if she would spend her quarantine with her primary partner, whom she has been dating for a year, or her secondary partner, with whom she just celebrated a four year anniversary.

Davis, a polyamorous woman living in Brooklyn, had arranged her life not having to make choices like these. “But when you love two people, in a time like this, you just have to make the call,” she said.

Related: Can I have sex? A guide to intimacy during the coronavirus outbreak

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Polyamory in a pandemic: who do you quarantine with when you’re not monogamous?

Coronavirus is forcing people in poly relationships to make tough choices about who to be intimate with

Earlier this month, after being exposed to the coronavirus, Chaele Davis had to decide if she would spend her quarantine with her primary partner, whom she has been dating for a year, or her secondary partner, with whom she just celebrated a four year anniversary.

Davis, a polyamorous woman living in Brooklyn, had arranged her life not having to make choices like these. “But when you love two people, in a time like this, you just have to make the call,” she said.

Related: Can I have sex? A guide to intimacy during the coronavirus outbreak

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How does porn impact men? | Modern Masculinity

A report published in January showed that parents of teenagers were either in denial or unaware of what their children watched online. With porn being more accessible than ever, the Guardian journalist Iman Amrani asks men how and why they consume porn and whether they think it has an impact on them and their relationships. Through responses from viewers, conversations with friends, and interviews with the journalist Jon Ronson and the female porn performer Casey Calvert, the latest episode of Modern Masculinity explores how taboos around can porn make life more dangerous both for viewers and performers

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Sex education: ‘We can’t let teachers perpetuate a homophobic or transphobic narrative’

New guidance will leave many children in England ignorant about consent, forced marriage and LGBTQ+ issues, say young activists

Relationships and sex education (RSE) will be compulsory for all secondary pupils in England from September, and primary schools will also need to teach about relationships. What these courses will contain, however, is left mainly to headteachers and governors, in consultation with parents. The Department for Education has issued guidance for teachers, but does it go far enough?

No, say young sex educators, who want the lessons to go beyond the mechanics of condoms on cucumbers to take fuller account of contentious issues such as consent, LGBTQ+, sex abuse and forced marriage.

Related: Sex education in schools is from an era when the Spice Girls were equality icons | Laura McInerney

Related: Sex education: what do today’s children really need to know?

Related: Fear of LGBT-inclusive lessons harks back to 80s, says Peter Tatchell

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Ne me touche pas… the shift in sex and power sweeping France

Since #MeToo, France’s notoriously liberal attitudes to sex and sexual power are under the microscope as never before

A few years ago I spent the weekend in a château deep in the rural Auvergne region of central France. Even more memorable than the crumbling property with its hectares of forest and decaying outbuildings, were the two elderly men to whom we were introduced when we arrived, who were enjoying an afternoon gin and tonic in the library. One – the father of my friend Guillaume – was Guillaume’s mother’s longtime lover until her recent death. The other was his mother’s husband and the owner of the château where Guillaume grew up. The two men had remained on excellent terms for 40 years.

The setup had all the ingredients of one of those lyrical French films starring Gérard Depardieu, replete with lavish interiors and rhapsodic landscapes looping through the changing seasons. It also ticked every box for lascivious British assumptions about the French, among whom infidelity, at least among the rich, powerful and famous, has long been something of a hallmark of a specifically French insouciance.

The past year or two has seen an incredible liberation for women

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‘If you’re going to watch porn, know it’s not real’: meet Britain’s sex-positive influencers

In schools and on YouTube, these taboo-breaking educators are giving young people a helping hand

Despite being a sex blogger with more than 86,000 Instagram followers, Oloni isn’t getting any. “I have to be careful about who I’m sleeping with,” the 29-year-old influencer says with a laugh. “It has to be with someone really low-key. The last person I was having sex with, it went pear-shaped. So I’m avoiding that right now.” But the impact of celebrity status on her sex life doesn’t seem to bother Oloni – real name Dami Olonisakin – too much. “I don’t feel like having sex with anyone at the moment.” She cracks a wide smile. “There’s no one worthy of me sleeping with them!”

We’re sitting in the plant-filled Ilford recording studio in which Olonisakin, Shakira Scott, 31, and Shani Jamilah, 23, record their no-holds-barred sex and relationships podcast, Laid Bare. They eat sweets and catch up about their week – Olonisakin has been unwell, after partying too hard – as they prepare to record. “I definitely want to do the TI thing,” Olonisakin says. (In the week that I visit, US rapper TI made international headlines after revealing that he takes his 18-year-old daughter to doctors for hymen checks, to ensure she is a virgin.) Scott squeals in agreement. She has views on TI.

Sex-positivity prioritises consent and advocates against slut-shaming and sexist double standards

We are the last resort for young people, when their parents and teachers don’t fill the gaps

At a year 10 assembly, we cover healthy relationships, coercive control and how to break up respectfully

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‘If you’re going to watch porn, know it’s not real’: meet Britain’s sex-positive influencers

In schools and on YouTube, these taboo-breaking educators are giving young people a helping hand

Despite being a sex blogger with more than 86,000 Instagram followers, Oloni isn’t getting any. “I have to be careful about who I’m sleeping with,” the 29-year-old influencer says with a laugh. “It has to be with someone really low-key. The last person I was having sex with, it went pear-shaped. So I’m avoiding that right now.” But the impact of celebrity status on her sex life doesn’t seem to bother Oloni – real name Dami Olonisakin – too much. “I don’t feel like having sex with anyone at the moment.” She cracks a wide smile. “There’s no one worthy of me sleeping with them!”

We’re sitting in the plant-filled Ilford recording studio in which Olonisakin, Shakira Scott, 31, and Shani Jamilah, 23, record their no-holds-barred sex and relationships podcast, Laid Bare. They eat sweets and catch up about their week – Olonisakin has been unwell, after partying too hard – as they prepare to record. “I definitely want to do the TI thing,” Olonisakin says. (In the week that I visit, US rapper TI made international headlines after revealing that he takes his 18-year-old daughter to doctors for hymen checks, to ensure she is a virgin.) Scott squeals in agreement. She has views on TI.

Sex-positivity prioritises consent and advocates against slut-shaming and sexist double standards

We are the last resort for young people, when their parents and teachers don’t fill the gaps

At a year 10 assembly, we cover healthy relationships, coercive control and how to break up respectfully

Continue reading…

‘If you’re going to watch porn, know it’s not real’: meet Britain’s sex-positive influencers

In schools and on YouTube, these taboo-breaking educators are giving young people a helping hand

Despite being a sex blogger with more than 86,000 Instagram followers, Oloni isn’t getting any. “I have to be careful about who I’m sleeping with,” the 29-year-old influencer says with a laugh. “It has to be with someone really low-key. The last person I was having sex with, it went pear-shaped. So I’m avoiding that right now.” But the impact of celebrity status on her sex life doesn’t seem to bother Oloni – real name Dami Olonisakin – too much. “I don’t feel like having sex with anyone at the moment.” She cracks a wide smile. “There’s no one worthy of me sleeping with them!”

We’re sitting in the plant-filled Ilford recording studio in which Olonisakin, Shakira Scott, 31, and Shani Jamilah, 23, record their no-holds-barred sex and relationships podcast, Laid Bare. They eat sweets and catch up about their week – Olonisakin has been unwell, after partying too hard – as they prepare to record. “I definitely want to do the TI thing,” Olonisakin says. (In the week that I visit, US rapper TI made international headlines after revealing that he takes his 18-year-old daughter to doctors for hymen checks, to ensure she is a virgin.) Scott squeals in agreement. She has views on TI.

Sex-positivity prioritises consent and advocates against slut-shaming and sexist double standards

We are the last resort for young people, when their parents and teachers don’t fill the gaps

At a year 10 assembly, we cover healthy relationships, coercive control and how to break up respectfully

Continue reading…

Childline reports 16% increase in victims of sexual exploitation

Service attributes rise from last year to greater awareness among children and increase in online targeting

The number of child sexual exploitation victims counselled by Childline has risen by 16% in a year, with perpetrators believed to be increasingly preying on targets online.

The NSPCC’s round-the-clock service delivered 4,500 counselling sessions in 2018-19 to children and young people who were coerced or forced into sexual activity, with the youngest victim aged just nine.

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